Ms. Katie Houle screaming and out of control on the phone, threatening to kill herself, and cut herself.


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From: mary rose lenore eng <maryeng1@gmail.com>
Date: Tue, Apr 18, 2017 at 9:57 PM
Subject: Re: katie houle death threats april 15. 2017
To: "King-Dunbar, Janice L" <janice.l.king-dunbar@hud.gov>


I spoke to Ms. Houle tonight for an hour and a half. She was screaming and out of control on the phone, threatening to kill herself, and cut herself.
She says she has felt suicidal every day sinceher dad's death (March 7th i think).

I suggested she seek professional help, call Multnomah Crisis line or Call to Safety (formerly Portland Women's Crisis line).

I told her that her threats to kill herself or cut her wrists put me in a difficult situation, and that as a Mandatory Reporter i felt obligated to take these threats seriously.

She told me i'm not a Mandatory Reporter.

I also made suggestions she use Yoga, chocolate, flowers, go to the History Museum, or listen to music.

When she cursed at me and used foul language to me, i told her it makes me uncomfortable.

She would not confirm the death threats on Saturday, but did confirm suicidal mental health crisis.

She sounded more rational after the long talk. I was hoping she'd calm down.

I also told her her verbal style in interpret as verbally abusive, i asked her to stop shouting, told her to whisper, and asked her to not use curse words at me or an epithetical language.

she called me the b-word, and kept using the term sh*t over and again in many combinations, accusing me of thinking she's sh*t.

contextually we have known each other from internet research in police accountability but we have never had a telephone rapport.

I do not believe that i have the education necessary to be of full assistance and i am not certain her exact residence.

I do know she is at home, and not at the person's house who has complained to me about the death threats.

i have worked as a caregiver, and trained as a paralegal, but i do not feel that i am suited for her needs.

I find it especially draining, and hope she can find help.

i hope i do not become further harassed. i assume it may have been wrong to answer the phone.
her contact at this point i perceive as unwanted and dangerous to my health.

she is sending me unwanted texts.

David Kif davis's text from his line 503 ### ####  "Katie is threatening to kill me again. this time she is threatening to falsify charges with the police too...i'm going to break this off . . .pretty much done with this nightmare bullshit"

april 15, 2017 1:49 pm

and at 1:52pm
"now she wants to be her emotional support system and forgiving after her abuse . . . using her dad's dying and mom as ammunition and stuff... its a fucking nightmare"

i will send her a formal letter requesting she stop all contact with me.

david has acknowledged using me as a therapist to deal with her abuse

i knew when i answered the phone tonight, she wanted to migrate the verbal abuse to me.

i don't care if she or david are mad at me, because i want her to get the help she needs, and am concerned at the lack of discretion and true fear induced by the suicide and homicide threats.

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  1. They're actually great and super healthy and happy. Shalom :).

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  2. that's great news! losing my dad was severely upsetting! he was a good man! great to hear they are doing well! shalom!!

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  3. She had PTSD from her ex husband who googles her every now and then to find her and push his way into her life again.

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    1. Actually her ex husband is me and I only google her after she makes fake accounts to drag my name down, if anyone has ptsd it would be me, she will always blame others but she was in therapy before we met, and yet when we together instead of working on whatever issues she had for originally being in therapy she tried to blame them all on me, before her dad died she also tried to blame him always with the I will hurt myself stuff even towards him, I have records of all her threats etc for my own protection obviously still needed because just this last month over 6 years after divorce she made another account to do the same shit same lies and try to ruin my life, I have voice recording of her admitting she would like and make up shit to ruin my life say I rape people and beat up people when asked who, she said she will make something up, and this all happened because I didnt give her any weed because she in the morning kicked me in the stomach
      ... Yet I gave her PTSD ok ..... Anonymous most likely is just katie again....

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    2. its possible to have conflicted feelings about people who hurt you. many people have excellent qualities---and can also be abusive. i do believe men need to feel more open about sharing their experiences. it is pretty difficult to face, but more and more men are coming forward with stories of abuse. sometimes men are blind, to the histories of oppression leveled at women. that can be quite frustrating. as for men experiencing violence from women, there is almost a complete erasure of the subject. i actually wish we could hang out, as katie was the last woman i had any lesbian intimacy with. in that sense, however fleeting our flirtation, i feel very loyal to her. so loyal, i do not want her to go on hurting people. i truly feared for the safety of the guy friend of mine, in her grip. i would not otherwise need to share this. people who lose control of their temper so easily, can be abusive to cashiers, co-workers, wait staff, on the telephone. none of us are perfect, but i cherish the idea of being a peacemaker. sometimes peacemaking includes tough accountability. none of us like to look at our own flaws. we all have immense human failings. a true friend wont give you the keys to the car when you are drunk and will drive off a cliff. tough love friendship isn't fun, as it incurs wrath, when you ask somebody sober up, in their attitude, or mentality. one day, i hope my brutal honesty extends to myself---as shame, concealment, and self-deception are the easy camouflage of human failing. cyberstalking is a serious endeavor, and can be frightening. i am sure my blogging frightens some people. the ethics from which my dyslexic ranting comes, my karen-ism, is in true hope of sparking change, in society and human beings. and mostly myself. in a few months time, i become less judgmental. im lucky to be alive,a s we all are. speak your truth------#antimarriage

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